The reason I started this blog was to collect my ideas and practice my brain each summer. Then I would go back to my world and go through the ups and downs of life till now, which is a year from the start of this blog.
I may or may not continue this blog in this manner but for now I would like to see how my thoughts have changed in response to my experiences.
In a word, Imback.
People get angry according to five situations: arrogance, weakness, ignorance, modeling, and psychophysical pressures. Arrogant people consider it their right to be angry: they put on a show of anger so that they remind themselves that they are masters. The weak get angry because they can’t decisively do anything tangible about a situation: their anger allows them to put on a show that at least they are doing something; the ignorant get angry because they see the world through a very limited frame of reference: accordingly whatever they see or experience annoys and angers them; some people whom we can call the most average Joe/Janes (because they don’t want to deviate from social standards) don’t know how to respond to a situation: they model their behaviour on movies and soaps, and accordingly get angry as a learned behavior in unacceptable circumstances; majority of other people may succumb to anger under conditions of hunger, cold, lack of sleep, futility of efforts, repeat harassment, helplessness, lack of human empathy, financial and marital stress, illness and so forth. However, anger is a symptom, not a solution, and remedial and/or preventative solutions should be administered minus anger because anger clouds judgement and a clouded judgment cannot reach decisive solutions.
Some people write aphorisms so that they appear smart. Some are smart, therefore they write.
A certain class of people will befriend you only so they can practice their “ignore you” games on you later. They will be effusive, friendly and kind at first, but as soon as they have achieved some familiarity with you, they will appear in your social sphere and then ignore you (but greet others) so that you guess what is wrong…These are sick individuals who get off on this because they feel serious insecurities deep inside especially in relation to you. The best defense against such people is not not making new friends, but not letting people get close to you fast, but if someone who became your friend but happened to turn into an “ignorer”, drop them immediately and do not talk to them anymore no matter what. A taste of their own medicine. If you don’t do this, their sick game will go on forever, and Sun Tzu (Sunzi) says nothing is a worse defeat than a protracted war with no outcomes.
The Wise are friendly but not naive, kind but not weak, simple but not simplistic, wondrous but not childish, knowledgeable but not pedants, practical but not cruel, prudent but not paranoid, relaxed but not lazy, workaholic but not busy all the time, religious but not touting it, good but not to those who are bad, humble but not servile, silent but also eloquent, artistic but not freaky, health-conscious but not dogmatic about it, thinkers but not philosophizers, brave but not careless, frugal but not mean, generous but not extravagant, clever but not conceited, sensitive but not impulsive, strong and appearing so, lively but not excited, calm but not morose, friendly but not soft, mysterious but not secretive, charming but not a peacock, successful but not afraid of failures.
Some people have confused “complacency” with a “calm mind”; in my opinion, the former destroys you, but the latter rebuilds you.
Confidence is a passive sign of experience, while competence can only be measured within an active situation and not beforehand. In other words, simply because someone is experienced doesn’t mean they are also competent; some parents thinks simply because they are parents (experience) that they are also good parents, or know what is good for their kids (competence). On the contrary, although competence cannot be achieved without experience, not all experiences make us competent or guarantee that we are competent by desire and effort, and not by chance.