The reason I started this blog was to collect my ideas and practice my brain each summer. Then I would go back to my world and go through the ups and downs of life till now, which is a year from the start of this blog.
I may or may not continue this blog in this manner but for now I would like to see how my thoughts have changed in response to my experiences.
In a word, Imback.
People get angry according to five situations: arrogance, weakness, ignorance, modeling, and psychophysical pressures. Arrogant people consider it their right to be angry: they put on a show of anger so that they remind themselves that they are masters. The weak get angry because they can’t decisively do anything tangible about a situation: their anger allows them to put on a show that at least they are doing something; the ignorant get angry because they see the world through a very limited frame of reference: accordingly whatever they see or experience annoys and angers them; some people whom we can call the most average Joe/Janes (because they don’t want to deviate from social standards) don’t know how to respond to a situation: they model their behaviour on movies and soaps, and accordingly get angry as a learned behavior in unacceptable circumstances; majority of other people may succumb to anger under conditions of hunger, cold, lack of sleep, futility of efforts, repeat harassment, helplessness, lack of human empathy, financial and marital stress, illness and so forth. However, anger is a symptom, not a solution, and remedial and/or preventative solutions should be administered minus anger because anger clouds judgement and a clouded judgment cannot reach decisive solutions.
Husbands and wives don’t tend to think the same amount about the same things. Obviously. But if they did, they’d get even closer to each other.
A certain class of people will befriend you only so they can practice their “ignore you” games on you later. They will be effusive, friendly and kind at first, but as soon as they have achieved some familiarity with you, they will appear in your social sphere and then ignore you (but greet others) so that you guess what is wrong…These are sick individuals who get off on this because they feel serious insecurities deep inside especially in relation to you. The best defense against such people is not not making new friends, but not letting people get close to you fast, but if someone who became your friend but happened to turn into an “ignorer”, drop them immediately and do not talk to them anymore no matter what. A taste of their own medicine. If you don’t do this, their sick game will go on forever, and Sun Tzu (Sunzi) says nothing is a worse defeat than a protracted war with no outcomes.
Beware the not-usually-so-friendly ones to suddenly warm up to you; more often they will ask you questions which will lead to more questions. The more you answer, the upper their hand in future dealings with you. In this context misleading nosy non-desirables should be considered sport. Exercise away, or suffer the consequences of being predictable, being known to everybody but knowing nothing about anybody, and appearing naive because information was extracted from you with so much ease.
The Wise one looks good when she is accompanied by others, but also when she is alone. But being always alone or always accompanied displays certain traits: always alone means one can’t get along with others, while always accompanied means one can’t rely on one’s self. If you appear in social gatherings all the time, it also shows you can’t handle being alone, while never going to mingle with people betrays a disregard or deficiency for cooperation, street-smarts, and the ability to handle one’s self among all kinds of people. Appear when you are not expected, disappear when you are expected not to, and let the people in your regular social space keep guessing.
The Wise are friendly but not naive, kind but not weak, simple but not simplistic, wondrous but not childish, knowledgeable but not pedants, practical but not cruel, prudent but not paranoid, relaxed but not lazy, workaholic but not busy all the time, religious but not touting it, good but not to those who are bad, humble but not servile, silent but also eloquent, artistic but not freaky, health-conscious but not dogmatic about it, thinkers but not philosophizers, brave but not careless, frugal but not mean, generous but not extravagant, clever but not conceited, sensitive but not impulsive, strong and appearing so, lively but not excited, calm but not morose, friendly but not soft, mysterious but not secretive, charming but not a peacock, successful but not afraid of failures.